Nope, there's nothing wrong with my English. You heard me right; I am a sucker mom. I am no longer the driver with a bus full of children going back and forth from games. I am now just the sucker.
How may you ask? Allow me to expand on my predicament or more so, my mindset. The things you do for the people you love - sometimes makes me wonder if it is worth all the trouble.
Unless you have been living under a rock (and not read my prior blog posts) my first born is off to college.
"She will be a mere four hours away!" I had squealed with glee when we had finally closed in on our college selection. Now, that little piece of information is coming to bite me in my rear.
"Mom, can you drive down and pick me up for my long weekend?" says my daughter "It's only 4 hours away."
"Well, honey mom has a full day of work and that's 8 hours driving back and forth." I say.
"That's not far mom I'm sure you can do it. You can come pick us up and dad can come drop us back to college." she encourages me to reconsider.
"The bus is a great option honey; it is door to door and it's only 5 hours one way." I beg her to reconsider, as she refuses to back down.
"That's an extra hour mom I will be sitting in the bus for. Why don't you just let me bring the car down, that way I can drive back and forth without you having to go through the trouble." she retorts.
That's enough for me to spring into action. The very thought of having my teenager driving down an 80 mph highway puts the fear of God in me.
"OK, I will drive the prior evening, stay the night in your college town and we can drive back the next day after you finish your classes. I will figure out where to park myself once they kick me out of the hotel at noon to continue finishing my work. " I relent.
So, I rearrange my schedule both during and after my workday so that I can make the drive.
My husband on the other hand flat refused to drive her back. "That's an entire day gone in the drive - what a waste of a day. I will just buy her a bus ticket." Both father and daughter speak and miraculously she is going back to college in the bus. Wait what? How?
I know, I know..... Sucker Mom!
Then a couple of weeks ago, during one of those Amazon Prime days my younger daughter wanted to buy a third hair dryer. "But darling what about the other two that you have?"
"It doesn't have a diffuser mom. I have curly hair I need a diffuser."
"Really, why what does it do?" I ask innocently.
"It's the latest ticktock solution mom for curly hair."
"Is it really? Ofcourse, I should have known better." We youtube a couple of videos and I yet don't get it.
"I don't think you need one - use your existing hair dryer and a curler" I answer.
"Mom, you don't understand. This will ruin my hair and my life because I will go to school with a mess. Is that what you want?" she is practically crying.
"Ok honey, I don't think you need one but if you yet want to buy one I am not going to stop you. These are the exact things you get an allowance for."
"It's $30 mom after the discount which is taking a full $10 off. That's expensive! It will make a big dent in my allowance." she argues.
"Last I checked, your allowance was very generous, and you can buy more than 5 of these diffusers in your monthly allowance." I argue back refusing to give up.
With a fallen face she comes back with "Ok fine, I won't buy one. It's too expensive."
Now, this is where I feel like a complete heel having accomplished what I had set out to do - make her fiscally responsible.
She moves to walk away putting the laptop back in my lap, crestfallen.
"Ok! ok.... I will buy it for you." I sigh.
"Really!!! You are the best mom ever." she screams in excitement.
"You are right honey. I certainly am the best Sucker Mom ever!"
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